VPL

Visible Panty Line is a constant struggle because a lot of clothing items aren’t lined anymore.  Lined meaning, there is an extra layer of material between you and the garment to avoid seeing any bumps, lumps or panty lines.  They also don’t make slips anymore like they used to either.  The new thing is shape-wear which I am not a fan.  I think it’s confining, constricting and uncomfortable.  The closest I get is control top panty hose when it gets cooler out for more dressy and formal occasions.

 

For all the other times, wearing the right underwear is crucial.

 

Fabrics:

  • Cotton:  This is by far the best fabric to buy for your body.  It’s also a great choice to wear under denim.
  • Satin/Silk:  This may feel silky and smooth but is not ideal for all day wear, unless it has a cotton panel.  Yeast infections are a very real thing.
  • Lace:  It’s pretty and feminine but can be seen through almost anything.  I say keep this to lingerie unless that’s the look you are going for.
  • Polyester/Rayon:  This fabric is becoming more and more common in place of satin or silk because it’s cheaper to make and produce.  The same rules apply, if it doesn’t come with a cotton panel, don’t bother with them.
  • Lycra/Spandex:  It’s tight.  It will stretch out faster no matter how well you wash it and it’s more expensive.  You can wear this under formal dresses, semi formal wear, work clothing as well.  It doesn’t breath well either, so pray there is a good A/C wherever you are going.

Styles:

 

  • Hipsters:  This is my favorite style to wear as far as every day is concerned.  It sits at the top of your hips, right below your belly button.  It’s comfortable, trendy and can be worn with pants, skirts, and various short styles. I wouldn’t recommend it under a dress because of the dreaded “roll down” then you have to pray you have a moment to run to the bathroom to adjust yourself.
  • Boy Shorts:  This is a fun style that a lot of people enjoy.  It can be worn under almost everything and is very comfortable.  It does allow for more coverage of your tushie and sits at your belly button.
  • Thong:  Be careful with this style.  It might be sexy but it’s not ideal to wear all day.
  • High Waist:  This is great under dresses and dress pants.  It allows for the coverage, comfort and seamless effect.

My rule of thumb is prepare your undergarments as well as you prepare the outfit you are wearing.  The right underwear can save you a lot of embarrassing situations in life, also can save you from doing that shuffle-walk in an effort to adjust yourself.  Invest in good quality underwear that will last a while for your formal and professional ocassions.  Do not feel like you are stuck buying from one store because there are a lot of retailers that sell plus size items.  Also, don’t feel bad if you end up buying cheap, every day stuff either.  Things stretch out over time, get holes and don’t fit as well as they did before.  Toss them, move on and be happy – your bottom half will thank you.  With each season, go through your drawer and discard.  You know what needs to stay and what needs to go.

 

This is my faux pas with underwear done on purpose.  Yoga pants can be awesome but dangerous. Just be mindful of where your top is. That’s my hip and part of my stomach.

See that blue monster peeking out from below deck?  March back in there, mister!

 

 

 

Getting into the Groove

I work out.  I lift weights.  I eat healthy for the most part.  I started committing more time and energy in all this back in Dec of 2012.  I have not kept tract of weight or inches lost but I can feel and see differences.  No matter what, I try to commit at least 30 minutes a day to being active.  Sometimes I hate working out, especially in the summer.  It’s so hot out and I feel lazy.  Who wants to exercise for an hour in this heat?  Ugh.

So, I have made a conscience effort as of late to start doing more despite the weather.  This new relationship has equaled me (and him actually) gaining weight.  It’s disturbing how much truth there is when they say you gain “happy weight.”  Who’s happy about an extra 10lbs?  Ha!  I’m not saying I will become a size 2 ever – it’s not going to happen on my frame BUT (butt – lol)  I want to look better naked, slow down the aging process, be healthier and have more kids soon.

The only workout I do on a consistent basis is various weight lifting exercises and squats.  I keep debating on joining a gym so it will help motivate me in doing more cardio but we’ll see.  I might opt for different fun classes so I won’t get bored.  Pilates is always a good time / serious kick in the butt and I have yet to try Zumba.

 

What are you doing to stay healthy?

Hell of a Weekend

What a weekend.

With all the emotions being thrown around, words being expressed and biases formed, broken and reborn, I think we need to keep something in perspective.  Love.  I’m not talking about candy, hearts and flowers – I’m talking about love where out of suffering we move on together, out of respect, we move forward and tolerance, we can find a way to live together to find peace.

This kind of love finds forgiveness in a dark place called humanity.  The spectrum of light, colors and emotions –  we feel everything, even if we don’t want to.  The pain I felt last night and still do, and I probably will carry some for the rest of my life because I know plenty of people who fit the description, profile, complexion of being in the “wrong” part of town at the “wrong” time.  Whatever the fuck that even means. 

Growing up religion has taught me to turn the other cheek, that these insults, and trauma are caused by individuals who are hurting from their own demons but sometimes you have to wonder if it’s really the devil or their own ego?  Now that I’m an adult and have a growing and continuing understanding that there is more to life than what fills the pages of any one book.  There is a lot of truth and power to maintaining the spirit, both human and otherwise, moving forward, forgiveness, and hope and pray that something finally sparks and people will let go of the anger and hurt in their own hearts.  Life is more than the color of skin, the neighborhood in which we live and the building we walk into once a week to absolve ourselves of our transgressions.

My spirit is low and my heart breaks for what is going to come from this situation.  I remain optimistic that good will rise to the top and there is a greater hope for the future.  Anything is truly possible.

I ask you to just remember the small things; the pleases and thank-yous, holding doors, remembering to smile – all the small things we take for granted or can’t be bothered to perform.  Don’t let this just pass us by and have it turn into passing meaningless chatter.

Let us be more.

Let this mean more.