On my drive in to work this morning, like every morning, there are numerous people always trying to cut someone off in traffic simply to get ahead. It drives me nuts to be honest. I can’t stand the fact that I’m doing the speed limit, which means I’m giving the car in front of me and behind me enough reaction time and here comes some jerk cutting in causing me to have to tap my brakes. I’m trying to go at my own pace safely and the other person can’t be bothered to wait their turn.
Ah, welcome to the world where everything can be completed by the touch or voice command of an app. We’re only 33 years(ish) from Orsen Wells’ prediction of flying cars and a society under the lock and key of a Big Brother figure. Pretty cool, no?
I was going back and forth on writing this mainly because I’m not a fan of generalizations and frankly, I don’t like writing a gave up style piece. I believe in optimism. The glass being half full, and that there is so much greatness to life that we all experience on a daily basis. Some miss out on that greatness because they gave up on seeing it. I did not choose to take a break from online dating – I unplugged from it completely – for good.
The book, Lord of the Flies often gets cited in times of discourse in times of crisis. We often wonder who will lead us as a group for the greater good, who is only trying to lead to fulfill their ego, and who will be part of the heard that ultimately destroys us, a la a rock being dropped on our heads ( I apologize if that spoils part of the story for you [ honestly, I’m not sorry. The story came out originally in 1954 and the movie released in 1990 – if you haven’t seen or read it by now, shame on you]). When in these difficult group dynamics, natural leaders often rise to the top. We all know how that goes; if it’s a group of women the alpha female will be labeled a bitch or worse and for men they are often respected for taking charge and having to make the tough decisions. Why is it that when competent and strong women stand their ground and move things forward, even if that involves dragging everyone kicking and screaming, it is seen as bossy/bitchy behavior?