We have all experienced that optimism of starting over with a new mode of trying to find a new partner. Trying a new app is the most common thing these days since too many of us work too much and don’t have time to meet new people the old fashioned way. So what do we all do? Download the new app, create yet another username, another profile, and another veil of hope that THIS TIME we will meet someone! Continue reading “We Keep Matching but Never Meeting”→
Ah, the old adage – Dinner & Drinks or Dinner & a Movie – The once traditional dating experience has vastly changed to, Let’s grab coffee/drinks (so I can run away quickly if you lied about yourself online and hope to meet another attractive stranger before heading home hopefully not disappointed).
With the change in seasons (or so the calendar says), we are reminded, sometimes painfully, that change will happen whether we are ready or not. One day it’s hot enough for sandals and the next we need to dig out our winter boots and jackets because the weather decided to snow. It’s annoying but we push forward complaining the whole way. It’s just a byproduct of being human. The same rules apply when things shift in our lives whether professionally or personally. Our once routine approach is either stopped or being twisted into something new for better or for worse. The anxiety and uncertainty lingers and we often wonder whether that next step we hope to take is leaving us on a solid foundation or are we doomed to repeat past mistakes again like some weird version of Dante’s Inferno.
How often do we hear someone make the statement: You’re not listening to me! Sometimes when that phrase is uttered we shut down and go into defensive mode because we know that we definitely heard them – whatever their original request was. We marked it down, etched it into our minds somewhere amidst the clutter of our every day memories and subtle subconscious reminders. A lot of us even save conversations in order to re-read and replay that conversation in our minds in an effort to hang on to that situation months or even years down the road. Yes, we heard you – but were we really listening to them?
Ah, text messages. The fast paced impersonal and electronic conversation that is turning into a relationship litmus test well before the two individuals ever meet in person and exchange actual human emotions. What does all this mindless chatter being typed endlessly into our devices amount to? Or is it a lot of used(or wasted) data and strain on the muscles in your hands and in your heart? Let’s break a few things down:
This was very empowering to me this morning I had to share it with you. 👇🏼
We often think that losing love is the real tragedy, the real heartbreak, and loss but it’s not. The one who did not value you, did not appreciate all of the love, loyalty, and devotion that you can offer them in such a selfish, greedy, and narcissistic world has lost something they will find hard, if not impossible to replace. No matter how hard they try. Take heart and comfort in the fact that you know how to love and how to care for someone else because that is a truly important gift to treasure that some spend a lifetime never getting right. ❤️
Never lose sight of that!
Have a beautiful Thursday filled with wonder and insight! 💡