With the change in seasons (or so the calendar says), we are reminded, sometimes painfully, that change will happen whether we are ready or not. One day it’s hot enough for sandals and the next we need to dig out our winter boots and jackets because the weather decided to snow. It’s annoying but we push forward complaining the whole way. It’s just a byproduct of being human. The same rules apply when things shift in our lives whether professionally or personally. Our once routine approach is either stopped or being twisted into something new for better or for worse. The anxiety and uncertainty lingers and we often wonder whether that next step we hope to take is leaving us on a solid foundation or are we doomed to repeat past mistakes again like some weird version of Dante’s Inferno.
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For all those who celebrate, I wanted to wish you a wonderful Hanukkah!
Stopped into Walmart earlier: The cashier who rung me up was easily in her 80s. What bothered me is at her age her only worry should be if she should take a nap before Judge Judy or after, not whether the computer/register system in front of her scanned a customers stuff correctly. I sincerely hope that things get better for people, especially for those who should be retired and enjoying life after working hard for so many years. It shouldn’t come down to applying for yet another low paying job just to pay for medications, health care, or food.
Have a wonderful Friday! 😀
This year is really flying by! I can’t believe we are already in March and it’s time for Lent. I am not Catholic in any way but I have always been fascinated by how Catholics and the, “I’m only Catholic on holidays” Catholics celebrate this religious process. The basic concept is denying yourself something for 40 days in an effort to draw you closer to God. It’s not Biblical but it is what they believe. I have yet to meet someone who hasn’t broken Lent within a week or actually avoided eating meat on Friday. I wanted to take this a step further to see if people can go without something important to them for any time period all in an effort to draw themselves closer to God? There are so many things we do on a daily basis that are such a habit that we don’t even realize we are doing them. Humans are ritualistic and forget to function on thought sometimes because it takes too long to break cycles.
What if we challenged ourselves to spend a few days trying something else? Doing something new or letting go of a vice that may be killing us in an effort to pull closer to God? And for those who don’t or refuse to believe in God, doing all the same just to find some peace of mind or clarity? I am not saying to do this for 40 days at a time but start small. If you smoke, go a full day without cigarettes. If you are a heavy drinker, cut back to once a week. If you have a gym membership that you barely use, make an effort to start going once a week. There are very big and small ways in our lives that we can make changes to find balance. It all comes down to if we are willing or not. I have challenged myself to get a lot of the stuff done around the house that needs it before it gets too warm outside. I like to do yard work in late Winter/early Spring versus trying to hump around all summer in the heat. I want to fully enjoy Summer this year. My smaller more personal goal, not just for 40 days, is to spend more time each day with God. I have found myself doing too much other stuff and then realized it’s just stuff. I felt empty.
What will you be inspired to do? Maybe it is time to let go of those old pains, get that big final cry out? Maybe it is time to try something new – almost anything new! Cliff diving in Mexico might not be your thing but wearing a dress for the first time in years might be your start. Going on that first date, deciding to take things to the next level, planning to get married or working toward making your relationship or marriage stronger versus throwing in the towel, or remembering why you have always loved that person no matter what and finally making your lives become one. It is never too late for any of this. You are the starting point.
Whether it is for Lent, one week or one day, you should strive to cut away the old bad habits. That is the only way new and positive habits will enter your life and stick around. What will you try today?
When we hear this word, it usually sparks the idea of volunteering to help young kids who need it. Whether it is emotional, spiritual, physical, or torturing, there are a lot of kids and adults out there who are struggling. They find it hard to stop the feeling of drowning in life’s issues. Being a mentor can be a great benefit to just about anyone – age is not a determining factor. I know a lot of adults who could benefit from having a mentor in their life. Sometimes you lean on a parent or other family member, but sometimes it is good to have a more objective person who will tell you the things you need to hear that you may not be ready to face.
There are a number of great organizations that are already in place such as the Boys and Girls Club of America and Big Brothers Big Sisters – These are just two of many places that are a great starting point if you are interested in giving back to the community. When you visit their sites you can explore the other connections they have. Also, do not forget about your local seniors. A lot of nursing homes welcome volunteers to read, spend time with them or initiate crafts. There is a lot to learn from the elderly community, and a lot of them barely get visits from their own family. You could be the reason they feel vibrant again.
What about those 20-somethings you know who are trying to start their adult life? How about those 30-somethings who may have to start over? The 40-somethings who have put off life and are rushing to begin again? The 50-somethings who are finding love again in various new areas of their life? The 60-somethings who are fighting the big R word (retirement)? The 70-somethings who have finally found peace? And the 80-somethings who have realized that living is the best part of life that gets lost over the years? There are so many facets of life that we often struggle with and feel alone in even among the closest of friends. It can be hard to ask for help but it can be the most rewarding, even life changing in some instances.
I invite you to consider something. When we put our own swords down, it is then we realize the weight we were carrying. When you are busy helping others through their struggles, you realize how to prioritize your own things. This is not to say we should ignore ourselves, but sometimes we often get too buried in our own crises that we don’t see how to crawl our way out. It causes a shield of ignorance. I feel that helping and inspiring others to make the most of what life has to offer gives me purpose. I feel that the more we band together, the better we all will be in the long run.
If you know someone who need something, reach out to them. It could be someone to vent to, someone in need of career advice or what kind of flowers are right for their wedding. Don’t place limits on things that don’t require one.
Help others. Encourage others. Love others.
I recently heard some people talking about the relationship between Ruth and Boaz and how much of an impact it had on their decision making when it came to picking a partner or waiting for that *right* person to come along. If you aren’t familiar with the story, Boaz is a well established Israelite of means who met Ruth, a Gentile who was at a low point in her life. This meeting changed their lives forever. Boaz was a blessing in Ruth’s life. I like to think that blessing went both ways for both people.
I was discussing with a good friend of mine how hard relationships can be, whether you are married or not. We also discussed why it seems that opposites always seem to attract and stick together longer than those who are too much alike. Like Ruth and Boaz, we may be brought together to be a blessing for someone else because we already have enough in our lives. I firmly believe that the story of Ruth and Boaz goes beyond the traditional male and female relationship. I feel that there are people who are like Boaz, male or female alike, and people like Ruth, again both male and female alike. There are times that we will have to hold up our partner through their season so that you two grow closer together. Sometimes we have to be the leader, teacher, shelter for their suffering or their strength like Boaz was for Ruth. There are times that we are like Ruth, feeling low and needing that hug or action of love to see us through. The core importance of the story is to teach us that we may not always understand our partner because they may not be “on our level” or they may have either exposed, hidden or unwarranted insecurities that are plaguing their life and possibly now your relationship and we can be quick to dismiss situations, people and emotions due to ignorance.
It is important to take a step back and realize that like Ruth who saw Boaz in a field, we have to strip down situations to its simplest form, like the field, to truly see our partner. Whether you are Ruth in the situation or Boaz, you should be able to be vulnerable to pave the way to a solid future together.
Have a great day! 🙂