We all have that drawer or space devoted to our bras. Whether they are fancy, high end, or barely being held together by the last bit of elastic and cheap wire, we rarely feel right in them, and tend to have so many that parting sometimes can be a sweet sorrow. Each store has numerous styles, names, and fits to hold up two friends of ours that barely get along. They don’t even look the same, let alone want to be held up all night by a sometimes constricting torture device. They make us feel sexy, scared, supportive, yet most of us have no clue what we are doing in the lingerie department. I know some women wish they came with instructions, or at least let there be more of a standard across the board when it comes to fits and sizes.
With the lightning speed that life is moving lately, I am very thankful for the little things in my life. The fact that I’m still able to call friends and family, and that I still have genuine friends and family to count on. So many are suffering, mostly in silence, yet throw on the biggest smile in public. If you are one of those people I encourage you to open up, get angry, cry – whatever it takes to release the emotions. If you have been deciding on making that call for professional help, reach out and do it. Take charge of your life and let it become all that you envisioned and imagined. There is a lot of truth that life goes by too fast, and is always too short – make the most of all that you have. We need you, and you are loved(even if you just got off a very passive aggressive phone call with your mother)!
Make tomorrow, and every day after, a positive step in your goals no matter how large or small. Do not let anyone tell you you can’t do anything. You can and you will!
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When was the last time you went on a solid date where you felt there was a connection, you actually wanted to see the person again, and you felt it could turn into a relationship? When was the last time you went on a date and projected all your thoughts and possibly derailed things after the appetizer? I know we are all guilty of having the foot-in-mouth instead of the spinach dip as the starter course. Or we are downing too many alcoholic beverages before we even learn their last name then complain that things bombed to anyone who will listen. Why are we torturing ourselves? I used to be that single lady who ordered one too many “foot-in-mouth” until I had a moment of clarity and changed my attitude. Looking back, I realized why I was attracting the wrong man and why things never developed due to how ridiculous I was being. I know that by changing a few key things, you too can find a healthy relationship that will give you a sense of pride and boost of self-confidence.
As a plus-sized lady, I fell into the thinking that I may never find the unicorn known as a “good man.” What if I’m not pretty enough or thin enough like some of my counterparts who, in my mind, fit more into what should be and not what is. I honestly have to tell you that that mentality is absolute bullshit. Men are men and they are not as discerning as women make them out to be. If a man finds you attractive, he finds you attractive. Yes, there are men who prefer a thinner woman, but sometimes they tend to be very insecure. It’s mostly due to them being worried about what their friends will think – not their own happiness. I’m not the thinnest hen in the henhouse but I have to say that I turn more heads than my slimmer counter parts. It took years for this to finally sink in but it is possible and it gave me a new sense of self-confidence. I was ready to be loved because I learned to love myself.
I empower you all to smile, be open and open-minded and confident. Learn to listen as well as communicate your desires and ambitions. Finding the right partner starts with finding yourself and loving yourself. Try not to get caught up in broken text message, email conversations, drinking too much during the dating period, being too abrasive or rushing to the future before it even gets here. Relax, have fun and let love find you because it will when the time is right.