Unplugged from Online Dating

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I was going back and forth on writing this mainly because I’m not a fan of generalizations and frankly, I don’t like writing a gave up style piece.  I believe in optimism. The glass being half full, and that there is so much greatness to life that we all experience on a daily basis.  Some miss out on that greatness because they gave up on seeing it.  I did not choose to take a break from online dating – I unplugged from it completely – for good.

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Who Was That?

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Often times we are triggered by scents, music, colors, or random sounds of past experiences that are both amazingly unforgettable and at the same time horrendously unforgettable.  When presented with such situations it can cause in us great euphoria or lead us down a dark path resembling depression.  It can take a few moments of silence to get us back to normal but sometimes it takes a lot longer to move forward with our lives.  In these instances we often wonder Who was that? while looking at old pictures with previous lovers or old friends.

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Dating in the Age of the Sociopath?

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Summer is moving at such a rapid pace that it feels like all I have to show for it are bad tan lines and a high air conditioner bill.  I hope you have found plenty of ways to find enjoyment the past couple months and are looking forward to the change in season coming in another month.  Onward to the festivities!

 

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We Keep Matching but Never Meeting

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We have all experienced that optimism of starting over with a new mode of trying to find a new partner.  Trying a new app is the most common thing these days since too many of us work too much and don’t have time to meet new people the old fashioned way. So what do we all do?  Download the new app, create yet another  username, another profile, and another veil of hope that THIS TIME we will meet someone!
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Dinner Doesn’t Equal Dating

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Ah, the old adage – Dinner & Drinks or Dinner & a Movie – The once traditional dating experience has vastly changed to, Let’s grab coffee/drinks (so I can run away quickly if you lied about yourself online and hope to meet another attractive stranger before heading home hopefully not disappointed).  

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I Heard Them but Did Not Listen

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How often do we hear someone make the statement: You’re not listening to me!  Sometimes when that phrase is uttered we shut down and go into defensive mode because we know that we definitely heard them – whatever their original request was.  We marked it down, etched it into our minds somewhere amidst the clutter of our every day memories and subtle subconscious reminders.  A lot of us even save conversations in order to re-read and replay that conversation in our minds in an effort to hang on to that situation months or even years down the road.  Yes, we heard you – but were we really listening to them?

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When is it Abusive?

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It’s all too common these days for each of us to be so enwrapped in each others lives.  We always know where most of our friends and family members are at any given moment thanks to the non-stop news feeds across all social media platforms.  We know when our cousin arrived at the local coffee shop and which friend is going through their 5th breakup within a month.  This behavior almost snuffs out the old thought of, “beware those who want to know your every move.”  That used to be a clear sign that your partner – whether you just met or you have been together a few years was controlling and borderline abusive and it was time for you to cut them out of your lives.  But what are some other signs that you are potentially in an abusive relationship and it is time to sever ties and move on?

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