I was going back and forth on writing this mainly because I’m not a fan of generalizations and frankly, I don’t like writing a gave up style piece. I believe in optimism. The glass being half full, and that there is so much greatness to life that we all experience on a daily basis. Some miss out on that greatness because they gave up on seeing it. I did not choose to take a break from online dating – I unplugged from it completely – for good.
Often times we are triggered by scents, music, colors, or random sounds of past experiences that are both amazingly unforgettable and at the same time horrendously unforgettable. When presented with such situations it can cause in us great euphoria or lead us down a dark path resembling depression. It can take a few moments of silence to get us back to normal but sometimes it takes a lot longer to move forward with our lives. In these instances we often wonder Who was that? while looking at old pictures with previous lovers or old friends.
Summer is moving at such a rapid pace that it feels like all I have to show for it are bad tan lines and a high air conditioner bill. I hope you have found plenty of ways to find enjoyment the past couple months and are looking forward to the change in season coming in another month. Onward to the festivities!
We have all experienced that optimism of starting over with a new mode of trying to find a new partner. Trying a new app is the most common thing these days since too many of us work too much and don’t have time to meet new people the old fashioned way. So what do we all do? Download the new app, create yet another username, another profile, and another veil of hope that THIS TIME we will meet someone!
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Ah, the old adage – Dinner & Drinks or Dinner & a Movie – The once traditional dating experience has vastly changed to, Let’s grab coffee/drinks (so I can run away quickly if you lied about yourself online and hope to meet another attractive stranger before heading home hopefully not disappointed).
How often do we hear someone make the statement: You’re not listening to me! Sometimes when that phrase is uttered we shut down and go into defensive mode because we know that we definitely heard them – whatever their original request was. We marked it down, etched it into our minds somewhere amidst the clutter of our every day memories and subtle subconscious reminders. A lot of us even save conversations in order to re-read and replay that conversation in our minds in an effort to hang on to that situation months or even years down the road. Yes, we heard you – but were we really listening to them?