Who Was That?

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Often times we are triggered by scents, music, colors, or random sounds of past experiences that are both amazingly unforgettable and at the same time horrendously unforgettable.  When presented with such situations it can cause in us great euphoria or lead us down a dark path resembling depression.  It can take a few moments of silence to get us back to normal but sometimes it takes a lot longer to move forward with our lives.  In these instances we often wonder Who was that? while looking at old pictures with previous lovers or old friends.

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Change Is The Only Guarantee

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With the change in seasons (or so the calendar says), we are reminded, sometimes painfully, that change will happen whether we are ready or not.  One day it’s hot enough for sandals and the next we need to dig out our winter boots and jackets because the weather decided to snow.  It’s annoying but we push forward complaining the whole way.  It’s just a byproduct of being human.  The same rules apply when things shift in our lives whether professionally or personally.  Our once routine approach is either stopped or being twisted into something new for better or for worse.  The anxiety and uncertainty lingers and we often wonder whether that next step we hope to take is leaving us on a solid foundation or are we doomed to repeat past mistakes again like some weird version of Dante’s Inferno.

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Are We Really At The Same Point?

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There comes a time in all of our relationships, whether it’s friendships to the most serious of relationships, and sometimes family, where we have the thought of if we are on the same page, or we are ready to start on a new course.  We often look for clues and suggestions from the other person because that fear of rejection can be overwhelming.  Sometimes we need to step out on the limb and ask the pertinent question:  Are we really at the same point?

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We Have to Remember to Choose Happiness

If you are ever feeling down, let this kid inspire you that no matter how old you are, or where you are, you have to be yourself and dance.  Sometimes we let the hurt from the past cloud the adults we are today, and forget that we used to be carefree, we used to not worry so much.  As an adult, you can do that too by choosing happiness.  Choosing to not let the overwhelming negativity consume us.  If you find that choice hard, take a good look at what is surrounding you: drugs? alcohol? toxic friends or family members? Take a stand for your own well being and make a change.  Choose to be positive and speak positively in every encounter you have.  There is power in this, and that power will transform your life.

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Those Two Magic Corners

With Winter finally coming to a dramatic close this past week, we are left with the memory of bitter temperatures, snow days, and potholes.  It can be a very frustrating season for some people for various reasons.  Not much sunlight, shorter days, very cold days, getting snowed in, running out of bread, milk, and eggs can contribute to forms of depression.  What about those who find this season emotionally draining?  For some, it’s hard to find happiness getting through the holidays, even with an army of family around.  Are you making time to exercise those important muscles?  I’m not talking about your quads or some latest fitness fad.  I’m talking about your smile.

How often are we shuffling around too busy with life’s demands and forget to smile?  There are times where it can make a strangers day, week, or even their year just to experience a warm, friendly smile.  It makes them feel welcomed, appreciated, and a part of society.  It can be more powerful than anything else.  This transaction can happen anywhere too.  Whether you are buying a cup of coffee or casually walking through a park – let friendliness win.  These small steps can impact not just your life, but those around you.

With a new season in bloom, Spring brings wonderful opportunity with its longer, warmer days,  and Italian Ice.  Are we doing more than just the usual Spring Cleaning?  How about we challenge ourselves to Spring Clean our attitudes.  Leave the doldrums with Old Man Winter and put a smile between you and that attractive stranger.  You never know who that other person could be in your life, so take a chance.  It will start a chain reaction to others that is free with no requirements.

If you have a friend or acquaintance you haven’t heard from in a while, why not make contact?  See that stressed out Mom in aisle 6?  Offer her a friendly grin with empathy.  That may be something she desperately needed all week.  Do you know someone who needs this reminder?  Definitely pass it along to them.  That small phrase, “I was thinking about you” can mean a lot to someone and put a much needed smile on their face.

In our modern time, it is so easy to get lost in the functions of your smart phones or tablets.  It is very easy to avoid making eye-contact anymore because we are adapting the ability to walk, talk, chew gum, and text on our devices.  Social contact is being smothered by technology, and it is evident in the way most people treat each other in every day situations.  I have seen people so hardened by being bothered because they had to look away from their hand held device for a mere 10-15 seconds.  Let’s make a conscience effort to reconnect, reflect, and encourage a smile.  Happiness is not that hard to find if we are willing to look for it.  Make a strangers day and yours will be made as well.

 

IMG_4518Early morning baby deer friend.  I said, “Hey,” we made eye contact and then he or she went back to eating.