Whether we like it or not, in our modern digital age, we are individual brands. Many companies monitor our online and real life lives in order to market even more specifically and appeal to our likes, and also our dislikes. You may not appreciate it or like it, may feel it infringes on your rights, but you can get ahead of this curve. Most social media platforms offer a form of privacy, and you can do the ultimate in privacy and simply not post anything. We see countless news articles of people losing their jobs, or can’t find a job due to their opinions expressed over social media. Also, we see big names in the media losing money, fame, and power due to their negative opinions; whether sexist, racist, or homophobic.
We can post our resume and network connections online, we can share family photos, share personal information, but have to remember the over-sharing can either make or break your chances at advancement. A lot of employers have added a Facebook clause to their employee contracts, meaning you are giving them the right to monitor and use whatever you do and say against you. It makes you wonder if you can even have a private life anymore along with a professional life?
Learn to keep your life private. Take time to learn about privacy measures on each social network. Stop tagging yourself, especially tagging your locations, utilize common sense – it’s a lot easier than we realize. For any online daters out there, stop putting your kids pictures on your profiles too. It’s just creepy. The more steps we take in taking control of our online presence enhances our private lives. Utilize having a professional email for work and other professional correspondence, have a personal email for family and friends, and a junk email for all those giveaways or stores that ask to send you endless bulk email. There are plenty of email servers that can link these emails together so you only have to check one inbox.
Isn’t technology amazing?
Start taking the time and steps to get your life back – You will be successful!
What really is the best way to deal with disappointment? Over eating? Over drinking? Obsessing on Facebook? I’m not really sure the answer to this myself because depending on the situation and how grave the said disappointment, you may want to do all that I’ve already mentioned – if not more, right?
My recent excursion down the trail of disappointment of course deals with my love life. I called a good friend of mine earlier to vent a bit about the past month and to talk shop about moving forward and realistic expectations for the coming month. I may be down for a bit but I refuse to stay down. Giving others power over you is dangerous and worthless. This past month I have dealt with a lot of issues from past relationships and potential new ones that I have been trying to change within myself as well. I made a deal with myself a year ago to change my behavior and some of my ways and try to date new and different kinds of people because what I was doing before wasn’t working. I ended up alone more often than I cared to be. I decided to open myself up to new kinds of men; men who before I would never consider dating because I would consider them too heavy a risk. Yes, I look at dating in the form of accounting – whether he is an asset or a liability. It’s just who I am. In the beginning of the relationship things went okay. I let go of some things and proceeded with caution. You only live once, may as well take a risk and find out.
Time went by and I ended up in a new relationship. Things were okay for a while until reality set in and my previous checks & balances that would have told me to not bother with this guy were coming up like red flags in a bad soccer match. My gut/intuition/whatever you want to call it kept telling me to end things and move on, no matter how hard it may be. How can you go one minute wondering if this is the kind of compromise they talk about when moving forward to getting married? I also contemplated that was it my own fears holding me back from moving forward too? Sadly, those red flags were turning quite serious and I knew it was time to go.
Fast forward to dating others more recently, still trying to be optimistic, hoping that if I try something different, maybe that will lead me to someone I am able to feel safe with. Nothing has stuck yet and the old temptations to previous encounters swing in and out as if being offered a warm bowl of ice cream. It’s tempting but easy to resist. I wouldn’t say I was lowering my standards. It was more not being as picky as I can be. My philosophy is to wait for that right one, not waste years of my life tied to the wrong one. What I realized after chatting with my friend earlier is that I am okay being single. My life is filled with a lot of great people and adventures that maybe, right now this is all I need.
It’s important not to be envious of others. What some have, they may have had to sacrifice everything for a moment of fleeting happiness. I do believe that a strong marriage is more important than just being someone’s wife. I also believe that a good marriage can exist, even in our modern time. I just know that it’s not my time yet. If or when that time comes I will be ready, but I am content to wait. I know me of 5 years ago would have thought the me now is crazy for even thinking that but wisdom comes with age. There are more important things in life than the selfishness of others in bad relationships, or pride for that matter.
As far as I know, for me, if I don’t feel that he is the right fit, I will politely say, “no thank you,” and patiently wait my turn. I deserve that.