It’s a cool and cloudy day here on the east coast this morning. I’m enjoying my coffee slowly while wishing I had a warmer to set my mug on. I was thinking this morning about how connected the world is these days but some of our personal relationships could use a boost. Whether it’s a social boost or simply your friends or loved ones need to know you care about them or need to hear again how much you love them. The simple fact that we can send a tweet and within seconds it reaches the far corners of the world and how incredible that is, yet we barely speak to family members or we put off time for friends because we assume tomorrow is granted to us. I understand we may not have the time to sit down for an hour a day and gab but even a simple text, email or voice message goes a long way.
Take a moment today to reach out to someone or a few people who may need to hear that message more than you feel like sending it. Love is the cureall.
This is part of a conversation told to me. It really happened, but I won’t reveal any names. The woman initiated this conversation by calling the guy. These two met online and had barely been chatting by phone over the course of a week. The main mode of “talking” was done through text messages.
“Why haven’t you asked me out yet?” – Woman
“Oh, are you going to take me out?” – Man
“No, I was calling to ask you to ask me out. Are you going to be a gentleman and ask me out?” – Woman
“You didn’t let me be a gentleman and ask you.” – Man
It is that time of year again. You know, worrying about what to do for Valentine’s Day. Should we go out? Should we go away? Will he finally propose? Instead of the traditional ways to celebrate, why not change things and create a new tradition for you and your partner, or if you are single, for yourself? There are so many ways to celebrate that don’t have to include something that is overly sexual.
Married / Long term relationship: You had better put some serious effort into whatever you are doing. Whether it is a nice dinner out on the town, or a special candle lit dinner for just the two of you, it needs to be something personal and with thought behind it. You should know your partner well enough to know what they will find memorable and special. Don’t forget the flowers either and a gift. I suggest you two hire a babysitter (if you have kids) and cook together. If you both aren’t the cooking type, enroll in a class together. Plan to start something that will help you two grow together and just have fun.
Somewhat serious dating: This is when you have been with the person under a year and have only recently decided to become exclusive. This doesn’t require that much of a commitment on Valentine’s Day but fresh flowers and a simple gift works best. This does not require the big ta-do, even though a lot of you expect it. It’s not fair to expect all of that from someone you have a fresh commitment with. Valentine’s Day is not a competition.
Casual daters / Single people: If you and your current other half haven’t made plans yet for the big day, don’t sweat it. In fact, I’d suggest you and your single friends go out to a singles party that night or plan to have your own singles mixer. This is a great way to meet other singles or just make a new friend. It doesn’t have to be overly done and can simply be a pizza, beer and Netflix night. Break out your baking tools and create Valentine’s Day cookies or a cake together. It can turn very intimate if need be.
Family Valentine’s Day Party:It is a growing trend for kids to be part of the celebration. I know some schools still have parties dedicated to handing out Valentine’s Day cards, candy, cookies and other sweet treats. Don’t stress that all the food and desserts have to be red or pink in color – the fact that you are spending quality time together as a family means more and will have a lasting impression.
Get creative this year, and don’t break the bank – unless you were planning on buying that $10k ring. There are plenty of ways to make this romantic holiday special instead of handing out a coupon book for free hugs. It is important to remember to give and share – love is more than expectations, pressure and jewelry.
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Here we are at Friday evening and my nail polish is chipped on both my hands and feet. The way my nails look is a visual representation of how I feel. This week has been both stressful and tiring, but I am very thankful it is over. This week ending marks the end of another school year and an end (almost) of one of the classes I am taking. It is a time to reflect this weekend on my goals, accomplishments and what I have planned for myself next. The intense challenges I have faced over the last 10 months have made me to take a step back and realize that those small moments in life are worth cherishing because there will always be someone ready to douse your flame. Around every damn corner it seems too!
While some relationships have withered, some were cultivated in such amazing ways. The pride you feel watching loved ones reach their goals is a beautiful thing to witness and experience. When I say loved ones, for me, it goes beyond just immediate family members. When I consider someone a friend, they are “loved ones” to me. It may not be romantic love, but platonic, adoration, appreciation, and respect all the same. I want those around me to ascend to their next level in wherever their passion lie.
This goes for you as well, the reader. I hope if this finds you that you let go of whatever is weighing you down. Whatever you feel tied to these days. It could be anything, any issue clouding your mind with cobwebs of denial, disaster and depression. Remember that those small hours when the light is just right and they are smiling and laughing because it might be a “girls party,” those are the times to hold tight to when the darkness comes calling through its many vices. Sometimes we have to let our guards down and have that tea party, play pretend, color inside and outside of the lines. Sometimes it is all we have and sometimes it is more than enough.