Settling Vs. Compromise?

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We often watch movies with a romantic theme where two people meet and somehow fall madly in love through a series of events that in the real world would be impossible.  There are cable channels devoted to this script formula.  What about in the real world?  Where exactly does one take their list of attributes and plug in another human being?

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We Have to Remember to Choose Happiness

If you are ever feeling down, let this kid inspire you that no matter how old you are, or where you are, you have to be yourself and dance.  Sometimes we let the hurt from the past cloud the adults we are today, and forget that we used to be carefree, we used to not worry so much.  As an adult, you can do that too by choosing happiness.  Choosing to not let the overwhelming negativity consume us.  If you find that choice hard, take a good look at what is surrounding you: drugs? alcohol? toxic friends or family members? Take a stand for your own well being and make a change.  Choose to be positive and speak positively in every encounter you have.  There is power in this, and that power will transform your life.

Stay beautiful!

Thankful Thursday – The Little Things Matter Most

With the lightning speed that life is moving lately, I am very thankful for the little things in my life.  The fact that I’m still able to call friends and family, and that I still have genuine friends and family to count on.  So many are suffering, mostly in silence, yet throw on the biggest smile in public.  If you are one of those people I encourage you to open up, get angry, cry – whatever it takes to release the emotions.  If you have been deciding on making that call for professional help, reach out and do it.  Take charge of your life and let it become all that you envisioned and imagined.  There is a lot of truth that life goes by too fast, and is always too short – make the most of all that you have.  We need you, and you are loved(even if you just got off a very passive aggressive phone call with your mother)!

Make tomorrow, and every day after, a positive step in your goals no matter how large or small.  Do not let anyone tell you you can’t do anything.  You can and you will! 

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Lent Your Way?

This year is really flying by!  I can’t believe we are already in March and it’s time for Lent.  I am not Catholic in any way but I have always been fascinated by how Catholics and the, “I’m only Catholic on holidays” Catholics celebrate this religious process.  The basic concept is denying yourself something for 40 days in an effort to draw you closer to God.  It’s not Biblical but it is what they believe.  I have yet to meet someone who hasn’t broken Lent within a week or actually avoided eating meat on Friday.  I wanted to take this a step further to see if people can go without something important to them for any time period all in an effort to draw themselves closer to God?  There are so many things we do on a daily basis that are such a habit that we don’t even realize we are doing them.  Humans are ritualistic and forget to function on thought sometimes because it takes too long to break cycles.

What if we challenged ourselves to spend a few days trying something else?  Doing something new or letting go of a vice that may be killing us in an effort to pull closer to God?  And for those who don’t or refuse to believe in God, doing all the same just to find some peace of mind or clarity?  I am not saying to do this for 40 days at a time but start small.  If you smoke, go a full day without cigarettes.  If you are a heavy drinker, cut back to once a week.  If you have a gym membership that you barely use, make an effort to start going once a week.  There are very big and small ways in our lives that we can make changes to find balance.  It all comes down to if we are willing or not.  I have challenged myself to get a lot of the stuff done around the house that needs it before it gets too warm outside.  I like to do yard work in late Winter/early Spring versus trying to hump around all summer in the heat.  I want to fully enjoy Summer this year.  My smaller more personal goal, not just for 40 days, is to spend more time each day with God.  I have found myself doing too much other stuff and then realized it’s just stuff.  I felt empty.

What will you be inspired to do?  Maybe it is time to let go of those old pains, get that big final cry out?  Maybe it is time to try something new – almost anything new!  Cliff diving in Mexico might not be your thing but wearing a dress for the first time in years might be your start.  Going on that first date, deciding to take things to the next level, planning to get married or working toward making your relationship or marriage stronger versus throwing in the towel, or remembering why you have always loved that person no matter what and finally making your lives become one.  It is never too late for any of this.  You are the starting point.

Whether it is for Lent, one week or one day, you should strive to cut away the old bad habits.  That is the only way new and positive habits  will enter your life and stick around.  What will you try today?

 

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Happy 4th to You & Yours!

It’s Independence day here in the US and most people are doing the bbq thing, worrying about how much food they should or shouldn’t cook.  I want to take a moment to remind us to remember what this day is really in celebration of and how much further we need to go in American and as Americans.  Equality is still being fought for, as is maintaining our freedom by those overseas and stationed here within the US borders.  It’s not a day to worry about how many Pinterest ideas you have for an American flag dessert or table scape; remember those who we have lost, are losing to PTSD and those who are braving the choice by enlisting.

For those sitting around enjoying a day off, reach out to those who may not have family in the area.  Fellowship with your neighbors, or make a new friend today.

Happy 4th of July everyone!   Stay safe, thankful and free.

 

And Just Like That – It’s Over

Here we are at Friday evening and my nail polish is chipped on both my hands and feet.  The way my nails look is a visual representation of how I feel.  This week has been both stressful and tiring, but I am very thankful it is over.  This week ending marks the end of another school year and an end (almost) of one of the classes I am taking.  It is a time to reflect this weekend on my goals, accomplishments and what I have planned for myself next.  The intense challenges I have faced over the last 10 months have made me to take a step back and realize that those small moments in life are worth cherishing because there will always be someone ready to douse your flame.  Around every damn corner it seems too!

While some relationships have withered, some were cultivated in such amazing ways.  The pride you feel watching loved ones reach their goals is a beautiful thing to witness and experience.  When I say loved ones, for me, it goes beyond just immediate family members.  When I consider someone a friend, they are “loved ones” to me.  It may not be romantic love, but platonic, adoration, appreciation, and respect all the same.  I want those around me to ascend to their next level in wherever their passion lie.

This goes for you as well, the reader.  I hope if this finds you that you let go of whatever is weighing you down.  Whatever you feel tied to these days.  It could be anything, any issue clouding your mind with cobwebs of denial, disaster and depression.  Remember that those small hours when the light is just right and they are smiling and laughing because it might be a “girls party,” those are the times to hold tight to when the darkness comes calling through its many vices.  Sometimes we have to let our guards down and have that tea party, play pretend, color inside and outside of the lines.  Sometimes it is all we have and sometimes it is more than enough.

Have a great weekend!

In The Quiet Hours

All is quiet here on the home front.  It’s Mother’s Day and I wanted to take a moment to write something to my son.

Thank you for giving me purpose, drive and life.  Thank you for being who you are at all times, regardless of the storm.  They say children are a blessing, but you are that word that does not exist in any language but can be felt at all times where and when it matters most.  Saying, “I love you,” merely scratches the surface of how much I truly do.

Continue to grow and continue to be a light for the world.  Continue on your journey through brush and fire yet remain in tact because you are strong, you are whole, and truly blessed by God.

Thank you for giving me the title of, Mom.

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