Dating in the Age of the Sociopath?

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Summer is moving at such a rapid pace that it feels like all I have to show for it are bad tan lines and a high air conditioner bill.  I hope you have found plenty of ways to find enjoyment the past couple months and are looking forward to the change in season coming in another month.  Onward to the festivities!

 

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We Keep Matching but Never Meeting

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We have all experienced that optimism of starting over with a new mode of trying to find a new partner.  Trying a new app is the most common thing these days since too many of us work too much and don’t have time to meet new people the old fashioned way. So what do we all do?  Download the new app, create yet another  username, another profile, and another veil of hope that THIS TIME we will meet someone!
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Dinner Doesn’t Equal Dating

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Ah, the old adage – Dinner & Drinks or Dinner & a Movie – The once traditional dating experience has vastly changed to, Let’s grab coffee/drinks (so I can run away quickly if you lied about yourself online and hope to meet another attractive stranger before heading home hopefully not disappointed).  

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Change Is The Only Guarantee

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With the change in seasons (or so the calendar says), we are reminded, sometimes painfully, that change will happen whether we are ready or not.  One day it’s hot enough for sandals and the next we need to dig out our winter boots and jackets because the weather decided to snow.  It’s annoying but we push forward complaining the whole way.  It’s just a byproduct of being human.  The same rules apply when things shift in our lives whether professionally or personally.  Our once routine approach is either stopped or being twisted into something new for better or for worse.  The anxiety and uncertainty lingers and we often wonder whether that next step we hope to take is leaving us on a solid foundation or are we doomed to repeat past mistakes again like some weird version of Dante’s Inferno.

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I Heard Them but Did Not Listen

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How often do we hear someone make the statement: You’re not listening to me!  Sometimes when that phrase is uttered we shut down and go into defensive mode because we know that we definitely heard them – whatever their original request was.  We marked it down, etched it into our minds somewhere amidst the clutter of our every day memories and subtle subconscious reminders.  A lot of us even save conversations in order to re-read and replay that conversation in our minds in an effort to hang on to that situation months or even years down the road.  Yes, we heard you – but were we really listening to them?

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When is it Abusive?

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It’s all too common these days for each of us to be so enwrapped in each others lives.  We always know where most of our friends and family members are at any given moment thanks to the non-stop news feeds across all social media platforms.  We know when our cousin arrived at the local coffee shop and which friend is going through their 5th breakup within a month.  This behavior almost snuffs out the old thought of, “beware those who want to know your every move.”  That used to be a clear sign that your partner – whether you just met or you have been together a few years was controlling and borderline abusive and it was time for you to cut them out of your lives.  But what are some other signs that you are potentially in an abusive relationship and it is time to sever ties and move on?

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Txt Msg Warriorz

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Ah, text messages.  The fast paced impersonal and electronic conversation that is turning into a relationship litmus test well before the two individuals ever meet in person and exchange actual human emotions.  What does all this mindless chatter being typed endlessly into our devices amount to?  Or is it a lot of used(or wasted) data and strain on the muscles in your hands and in your  heart?  Let’s break a few things down:

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