Suicide Prevention

SuicidePrevention

It doesn’t have to be a specific month or week to talk about suicide prevention.  There are so many out there suffering and need help.  We need to work together and do our parts to help on another.

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline:  1-800-237-TALK (8255) / Suicidepreventionlifeline.org

Please share this with friends and loved ones.  You never know who needs this information.

 

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Labor Your Weekend

I hope you all are having a safe, and relaxing weekend. If you are fortunate to have a long weekend off, remember to take time for family, laughs, and a good BBQ! Life is just too short for stress and worry.

I was fortunate to spend my Sunday giving back to the community. I had a table setup with loads of great info for kids, parents, and grandparents. Not everyone has access to information on how to care for their kids, so I do my best to provide it for those who need it.

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That was my table filled to the brim with free goodies!

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A shot of me beforehand. It was so gross and humid today my hair didn’t stand a chance. Oh, well, right? I am available to set up at other local events in the area. Contact me for details.

I hope you all have a fantastic weekend! 🎉😎

Wellness Wednesday – Let’s Talk About Sexual Health, Baby

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“Birds do it, bees do it, even educated fleas do it….” – Lets Fall In Love

I love this song originally by Cole Porter, sung by Ella Fitzgerald.  When I was younger I used to giggle over the “do it” part, thinking they were implying sex, not the whole falling in love part.  Now as an adult, I still giggle at the “do it” part.  With all the doing it going on, what about when we are doing it?  We all know the many other phrases associated with “doing it,” but let’s call it what it is – sex.  The good, bad, and the ugly – sex.  We all have sat through sex ed in school, rolled a condom on a banana as practice, and felt somewhat embarrassed by the terms used.  In real life how often are we running around looking for a dental dam?  The reality is, sex happens, and for the most part we are smart about talking to our partners about protection, past partners, STDs, pregnancy and the like.  What about those other times?  We take risks thinking we are invincible, and we won’t be part of another statistic.  This goes for all ages too.  A lot of the times, there is an association of irresponsibility with teenagers, but adults can be just as guilty. 

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Every Day is Mother’s Day

I hope you were all able to enjoy Mother’s Day, spending it with those that meant the most to you.  Whether it was the woman who gave birth to you, adopted you, or raised you; each woman in your life is special and deserving of the title “Mother.”  This, of course, extends to those newer Moms out there who are newly pregnant or  have young children.  Enjoy the ride, take too many pictures and spend as much time as you possibly can with them.  They grow up too fast, and you can’t makeup for the lost time.

With all the special gifts we can exchange over any holiday, the best gift to give is self esteem.  Too many women of all ages are suffering, sometimes in silence due to not feeling adequate.  You are all capable, beautiful, smart, and worthy!  Remind yourself each day, and remind those wonderful women around you too.  Let’s work hard to keep that gift going!  Fresh flowers are always a bonus too.

 

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Just Another Fitness Fad?

I am tired of all the gimic-y fitness things going around lately.  Currently, there seems to be a market for owning your own fitness company, selling shakes, and promoting a “clean” lifestyle.  It’s all well and good but let’s look at the reality of the fitness movement – some of these folks use crash diets or various forms of starvation to achieve such results.  Where is the emphasis on being healthy?  Why is there so much  judgement on those who don’t “look” healthy?  I think it’s disgusting and disturbing that such hate is spewed out on women and men who don’t fit into a certain ideal or size.  It’s time to take back your voice, power, and your health.  It’s time to take back your time in the sun.  I think the first step is realizing the reality of your health and fitness level.  I will break down each section to open up the dialogue on what it means to have a realistic fitness plan.

Your mindset:  It is time to get real.  Put away the magazines, stop coveting those pins you helplessly pin on Pinterest, and stand in front of the mirror.  Accept who you are, your body, your beauty, and where you are right at this very moment.  Take stock of every line, curve, and ripple.  It is vital to love that person you see starring back at you.  Having a healthy and positive mentality will go a lot further than busting out another 35 minutes on a treadmill three times a week.  It is what will get you to your goals faster and trickle down through the rest of your life, creating greater change.

 

What is going in your mouth:  Counting calories, eating “diet food” and generally trying to eat less/starving yourself in an effort to slim down is the worst thing for your body.  I avoid buying any diet version of anything or low fat  dairy products.  It usually means there is more crap that you don’t need to ingest versus healthy fat  that your body does need.  The best guide to live by is eat smaller healthier, fresher meals more often through the day, and drink more water!  Avoid adding any extra salt, sugar or fat.  There are a lot of ways to add flavor without the other additives.  Bake or grill instead of fry, utilize garlic and peppers instead of salt – the list is endless.  I also throw in eating some avocado each day.  Of course the big one is limiting those yummy carbs.  That was my biggest sacrifice.  For some people it’s soda, but for me it’s pasta.  It was *so* hard at first but now I have taught myself how to have a healthier relationship with it.  This goes for bread and pizza too.  The other cutback was booze.  There is nothing wrong in having a drink or two every so often if you enjoy it.  Just be mindful of having too many.  Beer bloat is a bitch!  Love fast food?  Who doesn’t!  Sometimes all I want to devour is a cheeseburger, fries and a milkshake.  (Okay, maybe all the time.)  Moderation is key – remember it and live by it. Even if you make a mistake, don’t beat yourself up.  In time, you will be making healthy choices regularly and wonder how you got along before.

 

What is coming out of your mouth:  No, I’m not talking about tossing your cookies.  I am talking about what you say about yourself, your goals, judging others, or judging yourself so harshly.  There used to be a SNL sketch with the guy talking to himself in the mirror before and after each show he did.  It was a hilarious sketch but we should stop to check ourselves out in the mirror and tell ourselves how awesome we are on a regular basis.  Even if it’s once a day, remind yourself how powerful you are.  This will help set the tone in your day and help keep your mind focused on your goals.  It also will help others around you who may have a terse word about someone else.  Planting that seed of positivity may help them second guess their accusation that is about to fly from their mouth.

 

Your health professional:  If you don’t presently have a health professional or see one regularly, you need to take care of that.  Women especially need to take their health seriously from a young age.  You need to see your primary care physician each year to make sure from top to bottom you are healthy.  This is more than just stepping on the scale.  They should run routine blood tests to rule out any other issues going on so you are ahead of the game.  Furthermore, it is most important that this person actually listens to you and respects you as a human being.  If you feel they are being condescending, find someone else.  Talk to your friends and loved ones who can suggest someone great.  They should be there encouraging you, not making you feel bad because you don’t fit in their textbook ideals.  The other doctor a woman should have is a gynecologist you can trust.  Your sexual health plays a key role in your overall health. Even if you aren’t sexually active, they will help keep you aware of what’s going on if anything changes or they find a lump in your breast.  Prevention is your best friend.

 

Your physical activity:  It really is as simple as that.  What are you doing to get active and stay active?  Realistic weight loss, as in losing inches and body fat takes time.  Pace yourself, work smart, and remember to have fun.  If it’s not fun you will not stick with it.  It’s that simple.  Take the stairs, park farther from the store, do squats at your desk, keep free weights at your desk – whatever you can fit in your life.  Don’t forget to add weight lifting to your routine.  A lot of people leave it out because they are scared to gain muscle mass.  You can’t get toned through cardio alone, or diet and cardio alone.  I’m sure Michelle Obama lifts free weights to maintain her awesome arms.  Start small and stay motivated.  Get some friends together to stay accountable for each other.  If you do decide to join a gym, make an action plan to be there 2-3 times a week.  You can do this.

 

Fitness can be a hard thing to navigate through, especially with the clique’ish fads, juicers, and the F word (fat) being thrown around like a weapon.  What is most important is how you feel about yourself, your health and your happiness.  Anyone can poke and prod their bodies just to appear thinner but at what cost?  Your health is most important.  Safe guard it,  and prosper.

 

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My general workout attire.  It’s from my, “I could care less about expensive fitness clothing” collection.

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I use the 10lbs weights with squats, lunges, and all upper body routines.

 

Lent Your Way?

This year is really flying by!  I can’t believe we are already in March and it’s time for Lent.  I am not Catholic in any way but I have always been fascinated by how Catholics and the, “I’m only Catholic on holidays” Catholics celebrate this religious process.  The basic concept is denying yourself something for 40 days in an effort to draw you closer to God.  It’s not Biblical but it is what they believe.  I have yet to meet someone who hasn’t broken Lent within a week or actually avoided eating meat on Friday.  I wanted to take this a step further to see if people can go without something important to them for any time period all in an effort to draw themselves closer to God?  There are so many things we do on a daily basis that are such a habit that we don’t even realize we are doing them.  Humans are ritualistic and forget to function on thought sometimes because it takes too long to break cycles.

What if we challenged ourselves to spend a few days trying something else?  Doing something new or letting go of a vice that may be killing us in an effort to pull closer to God?  And for those who don’t or refuse to believe in God, doing all the same just to find some peace of mind or clarity?  I am not saying to do this for 40 days at a time but start small.  If you smoke, go a full day without cigarettes.  If you are a heavy drinker, cut back to once a week.  If you have a gym membership that you barely use, make an effort to start going once a week.  There are very big and small ways in our lives that we can make changes to find balance.  It all comes down to if we are willing or not.  I have challenged myself to get a lot of the stuff done around the house that needs it before it gets too warm outside.  I like to do yard work in late Winter/early Spring versus trying to hump around all summer in the heat.  I want to fully enjoy Summer this year.  My smaller more personal goal, not just for 40 days, is to spend more time each day with God.  I have found myself doing too much other stuff and then realized it’s just stuff.  I felt empty.

What will you be inspired to do?  Maybe it is time to let go of those old pains, get that big final cry out?  Maybe it is time to try something new – almost anything new!  Cliff diving in Mexico might not be your thing but wearing a dress for the first time in years might be your start.  Going on that first date, deciding to take things to the next level, planning to get married or working toward making your relationship or marriage stronger versus throwing in the towel, or remembering why you have always loved that person no matter what and finally making your lives become one.  It is never too late for any of this.  You are the starting point.

Whether it is for Lent, one week or one day, you should strive to cut away the old bad habits.  That is the only way new and positive habits  will enter your life and stick around.  What will you try today?

 

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